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What is an Empath?
An empath is an individual that can understand how another person is feeling and deeply feel/experience their emotions.
I didn't know there was a word that described what I was feeling until 4-5 years ago.
Having an awareness of how empathic I was helped me develop strong boundaries in order to not feel overwhelmed when I am around people.
Growing up, I thought that everyone around me could feel what I felt. I knew exactly how someone was feeling and developed a savior complex.I believed that I could help anyone and everyone around me as long as I knew their problems, because, there is a solution to every problem right? This was my entire teenage and early college years. And over time, I grew tired and shut the world out. I became angry, frustrated and confused because of all the emotions and feelings that I took on.
It wasn’t until I was asked, “who are you?” that my reality broke.
I didn't know who I was. I was so busy living other people's dreams and aspirations, exhausted from making them happy that I never contemplated what I wanted to do in life. How I wanted to show up in the world.
I used to believe that it was a curse having to feel so much. I felt the weight on my shoulders as my friends were describing their traumas and I absorbed it and took it on as my own. I couldn't even watch certain types of shows or movies often because I would get so attached to a character that if they were to die, I would feel their death or be on the receiving end grieving a character's death for weeks.
I thought it was something that I had to live with for the rest of my life and believed that everyone felt the same way. My obsession started as I began to dive deep into the world of biohacking and spirituality. I started to understand more about myself, and soon realized that you don't have to take on others' feelings. You don't have to feel overwhelmed when you're at an event or gathering. And that there are techniques and intentions that you can learn in order to nurture your mind, body and spirit.
Learning how to protect my energy and create boundaries was the first step that I needed to take in order to understand this empathic nature.
I soon realized that we live in a society where we don't acknowledge how much we take for granted and that we easily give our power to others to tell us what is wrong with us. We have to become aware of society’s programming in order to live within our truths. The world is so much greater than what we believe it to be.
So please, take back your power. Realize your sovereignty, and don't just talk about understanding it but take actions on creating this relationship with yourself.
The scary part of it was that I truly believed that I had boundaries.
Becoming codependent to a person or a situation isn't having boundaries.
Saying yes to everything because you feel obligated to or because you don't want to disappoint your loved ones isn't having boundaries. You’re only enabling and further perpetuating the situation and that you believe you are helpless and not in control of your being.
So the question is, now that you are aware, will you continue to carry on as if none of this matters? Or will you take action on expanding your empathic nature and understanding yourself? Because then, it will be a choice.
Would you like to know the techniques and intentions that I have learned as an empath?
Comment below or DM me and depending on the response, I will make another blog on how I move through events/gatherings and on making everyday decisions as an empath.
With love,
H